For simple on-off control of lights, a 4-pin relay is all you need. A 5-pin relay adds a normally closed terminal that has power when the relay is off, which is useful for switching between two circuits, such as turning one set of lights off when another turns on. Check that the fifth terminal is labeled 87a, because some 5-pin relays instead have two 87 outputs. Match the coil voltage and contact rating to your system, and choose the pin count your harness or socket is designed for.